There are so many tasks. You can sit down and write a list, then fill in the list, then have a think, and fill up that list all over again. There seems to always be something to do.
That’s not a bad thing. Doing things can be good. Either because it helps you achieve, or because it’s nice, or because it makes you feel good. Doing things can also be bad. It can distract you. It can take you away from your family or the other things you care about.
Make sure you try and do tasks that make you happy and avoid tasks that don’t make you happy. But, of course, you should also do what you say you will do, perform well at work, and treat your family with love. Even if doing some things to make those things happen kind of sucks.
It’s quite important to move forward. Find a few things you care about, such as your career, your family, your health, your sport, or your side hobby, and pursue each with passion. Having passion for some of the things you spend you time doing will help you live a happy, healthy life.
We are all going to die. A lot of us will die relatively soon. Let’s make sure the short time we have is spent with people we care about and doing things we love, if at all possible.
Change is possible. For decades I lived in the warmth. I couldn’t imagine living in a cold place. Now I live in a cold place. I still dislike the cold. It’s unpleasant. But I find joy in the cold. I am lucky. I spend the cold times near a fire, with good food, and with good family. That was unexpected. I’ve changed my view and now look forward to the cold, not because I like the icy-feel, but because I know what the cold brings to me. I like that and realise, change is possible.
I sometimes worry about my chances for diabetes. Quite a few of the people in my family and my birth community have diabetes. Very few, if any, of the people in my new family and current community have diabetes.
There are fixed and variable factors that lead to diabetes. Fixed factors involve your age, gender, ethnicity, and genetic disposition. Genetic disposition refers to whether you have a parent, child, or sibling with diabetes. Those fixed factors are quite unfair, given that white European people have a much lower probability of developing diabetes than a latin or south asian person. But as in most things in life, much is fixed. It is what it is and we move on.
Variable factors involve relative BMI, waist, and blood pressure. I used the language relative BMI because it’s clear that BMI is a calculation of your weight and height without consideration of your muscle density. People with a lot of muscle strength tend to have a higher BMI, because muscle is quite heavy, without that BMI realistically being unhealthy. So I use relative BMI to say high BMI with the exception of muscle. Be realistic with the muscle stuff, is what I’m saying. Waist is the key driver for me. Being little in the middle as we age is hard to do. And it is so utterly important. Those spare tires we slowly grow are like rolling out a red carpet all the way to deaths door. Kill that gut and our chances for diabetes drop. And blood pressure. Blood pressure is in itself comprised of both fixed and variables, but those variables are in our control. Our cardiovascular healthy, diet, and stress levels can be controlled, as so they must.
I am of normal build, but I am also data-driven and obsessed with not getting diabetes. So I will get laser-focused on become increasingly little in the middle.
A lot of people have felt lost since the economic collapse in 2008. A few people have found a way to succeed despite that collapse. Maybe they were lucky – they happened to have skills that would be in demand – or maybe they were wealthy.
I find that I was lucky. I moved to a country that was not affected and then re-trained into a field that will be in demand for a long time. I also have the personality to continuously grow – learn new things and try to things – which is essential in a world where being able to quickly pivot can define success.
The world is more globalised and people who can pivot and react and deal with a global world are primed to find the success and happiness we were promised as children.
The thing about marriage that I did not realise before getting married was that hobbies are even more important. Because we know each other quite well finding new and unique hobbies tends to be important. For me, that’s quite pedestrian things like board games and gardening. Finding unique things about that is good, such as making IoT gadgets for my plants.
Family is important. It’s important to love your family. You need them and they need you. If you have a poor relationship, try and mend it. You’ll be better off in the long run.
On wedding days, birthdays, and trips I try to go to the gym. On those busy days I try to do weight lifting and stretching.
I rarely do heavy cardio or classes. Cardio and classes make me really hungry and big events don’t need hunger. But working out, lifting weights, and having a steam relax me.
It’s good to be strong, especially when external events are presenting themselves to you on a daily basis.
I’ve kept blogs in the past that have been narrowly focused. I’ve had to talk about a niche subject in order to maintain an audience. This archive is written for an audience of one.
I expect to be happy with this decision.